My goal this year is to simplify everything in our home, life, work...so that my priority is on spending more time with my husband. Speaking with many women around my age who are married, I've learned that there is a common denominator to why marriages can turn cold or apathetic: couples simply don't spend enough time together. They have other priorities on their to do lists, some are worth their attention while others are not. I believe that simplifying things frees up more time for one to devote to enjoying to company of one's spouse.
I am taking this simplification bit rather seriously. We have no car ( no need for one) so save lots of money from what we would need to spend on that. We have 1 phone we share between us and with ( get this) no plan on it, it's pay as you go or wifi only ( generally the latter). We share an office as well as most of our electronics, there is no mine and his. In fact our Christmas presents this year were in general to be shared between the two of us.
Yeah we might just be weirdos ( probably are) but we just love spending time with eachother. It's just that years of overwork when Billy was working in L.A. and later in Korea pushed us apart. That plus having a child strains a marriage, whether one likes to accept that or not. Now Kaya is older and we have simplified things to what we really need, we are starting to plot date nights and time for just the two of us amidst working from home and homeschooling.
This year, I want the dates nights scheduled in the calendar. I want to be able to have meals ready for Billy ( unless he is whipping something up in the kitchen for us) and want him to feel really appreciated and wanted, as well as cared for. He does so much for us.